Be the Tree, Not the Leaf

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Seeing this lone Autumn leaf stubbornly hanging on through high winds and cold temperatures, I initially viewed it as strong. Then I realized it was actually the opposite. If I could have a conversation with my 16-year-old self, I would show her these photos and tell her the following:

“Dear Kathy, throughout your lifetime, KNOW that:
1. Friends will come and go
2. Family members will come and go
3. Lovers will come and go
4. Jobs will come and go
5. Homes will come and go
6. Your health will come and go
7. Ideas, creations, and beliefs will come and go

Your tendency will be to stubbornly hang on to all of them as long as possible, tying to “fix” situations or people, trying to make things work out, trying to make things “right,” trying to make things better.

Your instinct will be to do this no matter how painful, unfair, or destructive to your body, mind, and spirit it may be, until it becomes totally unbearable and you can hold on no longer.

Each time you will view this hanging on and “trying” as being strong, but in reality you are only creating more heartbreak and weakening your body, mind, and spirit.

My advice is to stop resisting the inevitable when it appears. Learn acceptance and letting go instead. Resistance creates hardening, while acceptance keeps things soft and flowing.

Each time you accept and let go, just as this leaf inevitably will, you may experience a long, cold winter with bouts of sadness, loneliness, fear, and feelings of abandonment – a type of death. That’s OK. That is part of the natural process of healing.

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Feel what shows up. If it is a negative emotion you don’t want, let it go – each and every time.

Always remember, you are the tree in these photos, not the leaf. The leaves are all the people, pets, jobs, experiences, health, and joys in your life coming and going.

KNOW that Nature abhors a vacuum. Once you accept and let go of a situation, you create the space for new people, new ideas, new work, new experiences, new joys, and renewed health to appear… and they will.

Just like new green leaves will return in the Spring to this tree. Learn from Mama Nature. She knows everything. BE this tree.

I love you, Kathy. Live fully, with only LOVE in your heart, no matter what happens or how you are treated or misunderstood.

Learn to let go of all that does not serve your highest light, and receive all the GOOD that is waiting for you when you do.

I wish I had learned this at your age. I am only now learning and understanding the power of releasing attachments, fears, and heartbreak right away instead of after long, drawn-out agony.

Being a human is not easy. At all. However, if you can learn this now and practice it throughout your life, I believe you will have a much easier time of it.

Enjoy your journey, sweetie. Be well. Hugs and kisses, Your Older Self” 😘🙏💖

 

Love, Kathy ♥♥♥

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Kathy Ozzard Chism, B.A., LMT
Author and Holistic Wellness Educator
www.kathychism.com

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The Sensitives – Who You Are, and Why You Are Here

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Much is now understood and written about empaths in today’s world.  However, I have come to KNOW there is a smaller group of individuals, whom I term “The Sensitives,” who vibrate at even higher levels than empaths.  The Sensitives have come to Earth at this time to be the lightbearers for the awakening that is necessary for humanity to survive.

The Sensitives had, have, or will experience all or most of the following.  These are in no particular order:

  • A traumatic birth.  (In my case, the umbilical cord was wrapped around my throat and I almost drowned.)
  • A tumultuous childhood, with one or both birth parents frequently expressing anger in toxic and often violent ways, or frequently in crisis, or are apart from the family, divorced, or dead.
  • A feeling from early childhood of not belonging here on Earth, and not “fitting in.”
  • Considered an “outsider” by peers.
  • Often teased, belittled, bullied, and/or misunderstood.
  • Sensitive from a very early age to any cruelty, violence, and/or anger towards any humans, all creatures on Earth, and to the Earth itself.
  • A bright mind that can think of many things at once, which is rarely, if ever, quieted down – no matter the amount of meditation or peaceful activities.
  • A profound appreciation, understanding, and love of Nature.
  • A love for the arts, and talented in one or more forms of them – i.e. music, dance, drama, design, painting, photography, writing, etc.
  • Unusual illnesses during life, often at ages not considered “normal” for such illnesses or diseases.
  • A risk-taker and adventurer – yet often afraid.
  • The highest form of Sensitives are vegetarians or vegans, often from a young age, because they can feel the physical and emotional pain an animal experiences when it is murdered.
  • Have considered or attempted suicide at least once, if not many times throughout life.
  • Are psychic to some degree, often experiencing déjà vu, and “knowing” things before they happen.
  • Needing alone time – lots of it.
  • Understanding and using holistic ways of healing.  Understanding yet not using most western medicine due to its many side effects and toxins.
  • Choosing organic foods that are closely aligned with what humans first ate on the Earth.  Sensitives understand that human biology has not changed much since that time, and much of the “food” mankind has engineered is not healthy.
  • Cannot bear arguing, raised voices, or anger/violence of any kind, including on TV, in movies, social media, etc.
  • Cannot bear teasing, jokes about others, meanness, and injustice of any kind.
  • Have always been able to easily see how the world could be healed to a place of peace, harmony, love, joy, kindness, and abundance for everyone.
  • Although attractive, The Sensitives are often considered “unlucky” in love. They usually experience many relationships in one lifetime, as they are very old souls who always want to help heal others – no matter how much that help may hurt themselves.
  • Often told directly “You are too sensitive” by those who see sensitivities as a weakness.
  • Sensitives experience many “high highs” and many “low lows” in life.  It is often difficult for them to find stability and middle ground, which often leads to anxiety and panic attacks.
  • Their sensitivities heighten with age, to the point where certain injustices and horror in the world feel totally unbearable.
  • Electronics and wireless technologies physically and emotionally affect The Sensitives, often to dangerous and deadly degrees over time.
  • A history of helping others, often to one’s own physical and financial detriment.
  • Sensitives feel best when helping someone else who receives that help with gratitude.
  • Sensitives have inner voices and/or intuitive feelings they learn to follow for positive outcomes.
  • They experience too many financial ups and downs in life to count.
  • Highly chemically sensitive to synthetic and toxic ingredients and fragrances in cleaning products, clothing, furniture, cars, candles, body and hair products, perfumes, etc. – and this gets worse over time.
  • The Sensitives are very susceptible to SAD syndrome (Seasonal Affective Disorder) and need healthy forms of light therapy, Vitamin D, etc., to help stay balanced during months of the year that experience less daylight.
  • Others see Sensitives as  “Energizer Bunnies” – high energy, accomplishing much, pushing themselves to the point of exhaustion.
  • Sensitives often have “Career ADD” – a wide variety of careers and jobs in one lifetime, as they have so many interests, and a need to experience and learn as much as possible about those interests.
  • The Sensitives often move to many locations in their lifetime, again for that need to experience all they can while here. Ironically, rarely will any location they live in truly feel like “home.”
  • Most Sensitives are perfectionists, wanting to control situations so they do not feel lost or confused.  Being in control helps their active minds stay focused so they can complete a task without distractions.
  • Sensitives have always had a cosmic and spiritual awareness and wisdom, a higher knowledge that many don’t have – yet.
  • Belief in reincarnation.  The Sensitives understand and agree with the goodness in religions, yet reject how mankind has manipulated religious teachings for power, money, war, and hatred for others.
  • Sensitives understand we are all ONE on Earth.  One heart, one system, one being that must work together harmoniously in order to survive.
  • Sensitives forgive easily, even when hurt in ways most people in today’s world would find difficult to forgive.
  • Most Sensitives have suffered at least one concussion in their lives, if not more.  The concussion(s) have served to awaken sensitivity-heightening parts of the brain not yet normally accessed by non-concussed humans.
  • Other people just naturally open up to The Sensitives, often telling them their deepest, darkest secrets they have never told anyone else.
  • A majority of The Sensitives do not have children.  They knew from an early age they should not, as they are so protective and sensitive.  Yet they love children deeply, and often become teachers or work with schools in some way to still have that interaction and bring light into children’s lives.
  • They nurture and adore pets… until a time comes when the pain of losing a pet becomes too great to ever have any more.  At that time they usually help in other ways, assisting no-kill shelters, etc.
  • Sensitives understand, embrace, and do not fear death.  They are excellent at guiding others through the death transition with grace and, of course, sensitivity.
  • The Sensitives often question why they were born.

If the above feels like you, and you are finding it more and more difficult to be here on Earth in such a time of fear and upheaval, I have good news.

You chose to be here now, whether you remember doing that or not.

You are one of the Lightbearers, here on Earth at this time to help awaken humanity to a new age, a new vibration for living, a new way of BE-ing.

This does not mean you have to go out and become a large voice in public for shifts and changes.

It means you simply live your life as best you can, always coming from LOVE, (no matter what), and being a voice in your family, among your friends, on social media, at work, etc., for the beauty that still exists all around you, for the GOOD that is in the human heart, for the kindness you show to all animals, etc.

In other words, you simply BE the light and shining example you are, and, like the Butterfly Effect, send out energy that can’t help but return as love, healing, growth, and positive awareness.

To do this, you MUST take care of your SELF.  First and foremost.  This is not selfish, this is critical, just like when the flight attendant tells you to put your oxygen mask on first before you can help others.

My book “The Power of Know – 30 Days of All-Natural Ways to Heal Mind, Body, and Spirit” is a lifeline for helping you take care of your SELF at your highest level.  It is available on Amazon in print, audio, and Kindle.

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KNOW that you are here for one of the greatest purposes in the history of mankind and womankind.

KNOW that you are needed.

KNOW that you and your sensitivities are a gift of light to the world.

To your happy, sensitive, peaceful, purposeful, inspired, light, and healthy self!

Love, Kathy ♥♥♥

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Kathy Ozzard Chism, B.A., LMT
Author and Holistic Wellness Educator
www.kathychism.com

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Tick Tock – Tick Time Matters

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Had a fascinating conversation with a doctor yesterday.  As we live in the Land of Deer and Deer Mice with ticks and Lyme Disease in abundance, he offered some very interesting information.

This doctor removes dozens upon dozens of ticks from people every week.  As I live with my sweetheart and two dogs, I was reassured when he said to ignore a lot of what is on the Internet that causes such fear around ticks.

Instead he outlined the following:

1.  Check yourself and your pets thoroughly every day if you have been outside.  The good news is you have up to 72 hours to be safe from Lyme Disease if you get the tick out within that time period.  Yay!  🙂

2.  Remove the tick with tweezers.  Do NOT pull it out, as you don’t want to leave its little twin mouth saws (chelicerae) flanking an appendage (a hypostome) that appears to be a kind of long, barbed sword in the skin.  (The doctor did say if they somehow stay in there, the body will naturally flush them out over time, though.)

Grip the head (or as close as you can to the head) with the tweezers, and do TWO FULL ROTATIONS with them.  Then gently “rotate-pull” the tick out.  (If you lose your grip on the tweezers, simply start again.)  Put the tick in a little paper cup and dispose of it properly, as it will most likely still be alive and able to walk around.

3.  Do not take any antibiotics at this time, nor do a blood test, unless you believe the tick has been in you or your pet for at least a month.  Lyme Disease does not appear for four – six weeks.

4.  If you get sick four to six weeks after a tick bite, do NOT dismiss it as the flu.  Symptoms for Lyme Disease can be fever/chills, headache, fatigue, muscle ache, rash, etc.  This can also happen if the tick only bites you, yet does not imbed itself.

If you feel “off,” or have any of the symptoms above during the four to six week mark, go to a doctor IMMEDIATELY and get a blood test.  In New York where we live, and possibly other states, they will put you on an antibiotic right then and there – without even waiting for the result – because of a crazy rule in our state.

(NY requires that the blood be tested in California, and the wait time for that turnaround matters if you indeed have the Lyme Disease.)

If you go on the antibiotics in this “new” phase of the illness, there is a nearly 100% chance any Lyme Disease will be cured.  Yay again!  🙂

5.  In many parts of the world, like where we live, ticks abound.  A fenced yard will not prevent them from wandering in.  The doctor’s nurse said she has even seen them walking up her screen door.

It is a good idea to check over and wash your clothes when you have been outside on grass or in the woods.  Your pets can also bring them in on their fur to drop off in your house.  You don’t have to be neurotic about it, but it is wise to be vigilant.

OK, so as I KNOW all creatures have a purpose for being on earth, this conversation spurred me to look for the GOOD that ticks do.  Here is an interesting link that explains their purpose: http://insects.about.com/od/ticksmites/f/What-Good-Are-Ticks.htm

Hope this helps you have worry-free outdoor time, as it is more important to spend as much time in Nature as possible than staying inside due to concern about ticks!  Knowledge is power.

To your happy, One-With-Nature, healthy self!  Love, Kathy ♥♥♥

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Kathy Ozzard Chism, B.A., LMT
Author and Holistic Wellness Educator
www.kathychism.com

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For All Women Who Are Not Biological Mothers on Mother’s Day

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Today is Mother’s Day.

Yesterday a long-time friend of mine told me I would have made a wonderful mother. This stirred up feelings I haven’t had for a while, and I got a strong hit to share some thoughts with all women who will not bear children in this lifetime. So here goes…

You/we are not “less than.” There are reasons why we have not had children from our wombs. Some reasons may be revealed to us, some may not, and some women simply don’t want to be mothers… and that’s all okay. KNOW that our purpose and being on earth is simply different than for those who bring children into the world.

I understand that for many women, (and their partners), not having one’s own children can be overwhelmingly heartbreaking. I know many couples and single women who have tried everything, often many times over, to get pregnant… but to no avail, or have had one or more miscarriages. I feel for everyone in this position, and hope the following will help those who feel the loss profoundly.

For me, I accepted early on that I would never be a mother in the biological sense.

Although I adore children, it was a conscious decision I made in my 20’s for several reasons. When told by doctors that with my rare A negative blood type I would absolutely have difficulty bearing them, I felt that was the Universe telling me my decision was the correct one.

(Now I know that is not true, as there are things that can be done to work with negative Rh factors, but back in those days that was what was often said. Even so, I believe the telling of that to me was for a higher purpose.)

There was also the fact that the only two men I ever truly wanted to have children with disappeared from my life during my child-bearing years… again, I believe, for a higher purpose. (Both those men went on to have children with other women, and although it was hard to learn about at first, now I am truly happy for them.)

Looking back, I realize I immersed myself in some way with children ever since. I got a degree in Elementary Education, and taught 4th grade. As a flight attendant I always paid extra attention to the children on my flights, trying to help them have fun and relieve the parents a bit.  When I later became a massage therapist, I took additional courses and seminars in Maternity Massage – becoming a Pregnancy Massage specialist, and teaching Maternity Massage as well.

In 2004 my friend Virge and I founded the “Bahamian Children’s Trust Fund” to help children, the elderly, and animals recover from two hurricanes in a row that decimated Grand Bahama Island, where I once lived.

That experience guided me to start a global all-volunteer 501(c)(3) nonprofit, Dream One World, where we have helped hundreds and hundreds of children throughout the United States and five other countries. Currently we are building a school and orphanage for 150 children in Uganda, East Africa. (www.dreamoneworld.org)

I am only telling you all this because if you are a person grieving for your own unborn children, please rejoice in the fact that, like me, whatever you have done and continue to choose to do in life impacts the growth process of other human beings – including children and parents.

Look back on your life. You are unique. Like the butterfly effect, your actions have been and continue to be equally as important as the actions of those who bear children.

Of course, this can be through the beauty of adoption. It can also be through teaching music lessons, or donating time and/or money to a charity, or words of wisdom to a niece or nephew, or volunteering at a homeless shelter, or a million other things you have done or said throughout your lifetime that you probably never thought were as important as having children of your own. Things that those with children may not have the time and/or finances to do, yet so appreciate those who do them.

It all matters. Think back on the people who greatly influenced your life – a teacher, an employer, a friend, a relative, etc. It didn’t matter to you whether they had children or not.  What mattered was the wisdom, support, and inspiration they gave you.

Just as you treasure those people in your heart, you are treasured more than you know in other hearts.

We are all on this planet for reasons. It is not our job to figure out why we were or were not able to bear children. It is our job to be grateful for all life, and to enjoy and help those who are here as best we can.

Oh, and for those who are worried about growing old without someone to “take care of them,” that is never a reason to have children. Plus there are no guarantees in life anyway. As a wise woman once said, “Family is who shows up.”

KNOW we are all one huge family on this planet. We are all connected. We are here to live life to its fullest, whatever that looks like for us, no matter what sadness happens along the way. When we accept difficult events, losses, and grief, we can continue on with more empathy for others on similar paths… and ultimately become beacons of light for those still trapped in shadows or darkness.

Acceptance is gigantic. I tell all my clients to fly their F.L.A.G.s of Forgiveness, Love, Acceptance, and Gratitude at all times, no matter what. This means for yourself, for all others, (no exceptions), and for what is.

What is, is. Accept it, with love. Again, KNOW there are reasons for it.

Open your heart to the mothering you were meant to do in this lifetime. When you do that, your true purpose will find you.

With so much love on this day and always, Kathy ♥♥♥

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Kathy Ozzard Chism, B.A., LMT
Author and Holistic Wellness Educator
www.kathychism.com

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Releasing Anger, Accepting Peace

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I admit, I love Facebook.  However, every day I see posts of anger there about injustices in the world, divisive political issues, determined ideologies, etc., and it made me think of the anger people live with on a daily basis.

KNOW that anger lives in the liver, and over time causes havoc and illness there. The photo above is my new mantra. When you accept and turn everything to LOVE, you can focus on all the good in your life, your community, your country, and the world.

Anger begets more anger. Love begets more love. Peace begets more peace. There is so much GOOD happy-ning in the world, and far more good people than bad people. We are just under the radar, not on the 6:00 news.

I always suggest to my clients and in my “The Power of Know” book to turn off the news as much as possible. Focus on the wonderful aspects in one’s life, and the goodness and beauty that abounds everywhere.

What we think about and what we focus on comes to us – so why not focus on positives?! This is not putting one’s head in the sand. This is literally creating a higher state of consciousness for the planet. Plus feeling peaceful is a much healthier state of being – for all of us.

We are powerful beyond measure to help change the world with truly loving, kind, positive thoughts and actions… while flying our F.L.A.G.s of Forgiveness, Love, Acceptance, and Gratitude for ourselves, for all others, (no exceptions), and for what is.

I am living proof of that. You can be, too.

To your health! Love, Kathy ♥♥♥

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Kathy Ozzard Chism, B.A., LMT
Author and Holistic Wellness Educator
www.kathychism.com

To purchase Kathy’s fantastic healing book “The Power of Know – 30 Days of All-Natural Ways to Heal Mind, Body, and Spirit” in print, audiobook, or Kindle, click HERE.

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YOU are organic – GO organic!

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Our livers were not constructed to continually cleanse these harmful chemicals and other toxins. Hence, more and more disease.

Please, choose wisely at the grocery store. It’s the most important money you will ever spend.

Also, why aren‘t organic farmers getting subsidies instead of farmers using poisons on America’s food, which should have poison signs on labeling to alert consumers?

Mind boggling. ALL food should be organic and GMO-free, as Nature intended.

Collectively, we have the power to change back to that, simply through our buying choices.

Again, there is no more important money you will ever spend.

To your organic health!

Love, Kathy ♥♥♥

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Kathy Ozzard Chism, B.A., LMT
Author and Holistic Wellness Educator
www.kathychism.com

To purchase Kathy’s fantastic healing book “The Power of Know – 30 Days of All-Natural Ways to Heal Mind, Body, and Spirit” in print, audiobook, or Kindle, click HERE.

To schedule a private healing and wellness coaching session with Kathy in person or by phone, please contact her at: kathy@kathychism.com

Letting GO to let life FLOW…

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Found this pretty photo from a journey I took through Big Sur, CA, a while back. Deeply grateful to have lived in so many locales, traveled to so many amazing places around the world, and met so many incredible people over the years.

My life has been a wild, unpredictable, roller coaster of a ride, filled with more ups and downs than I can count. For decades I was driven to do everything I could do, see everything I could see, and help everyone I could help along the way.

Then, a while back, I became content to just BE, and allow life to come to me. What has shown up since is nothing short of amazing.

Letting GO really does let life FLOW. Give it a try!

Love to all… Kathy ♥♥♥

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Kathy Ozzard Chism, B.A., LMT
Author and Holistic Wellness Educator
www.kathychism.com

To schedule a private healing and wellness coaching session with Kathy in person or by phone, please contact her at: kathy@kathychism.com